I recently had an opportunity to visit with the father of a high school classmate of mine. I had never met him before. Only a “small world” could have brought about a chance to visit some 1200 miles south some 20 years later!
As we visited, he shared things that I had never known about my friend. Some heartbreaking details that I wish I had known then. Perhaps I could have done something differently.
As our time drew to a close, he offered an opportunity to talk with my friend on his cell phone. I’m sure my eyes must have widened to dinner plates. I panicked. I hadn’t talked to her over the years.
Later I reflected on my reaction. I had gone from compassion for her struggles to fear of talking to her.
I quickly realized that the panic was not really about not wanting to talk to her, but fear that she would not want to talk to me! That same fear that characterized my whole teen existence – why would they (whoever they happened to be at the time) want to talk to me? Those same insecurities came flooding back.
Obviously my self-confidence was lacking as a teenager. How many teens find themselves in the same position, always comparing but never measuring up? Yet the very ones they compare themselves to could be doing the exact same thing themselves!
What if we could know what someone else really thought of us? How would that change our daily interactions and our confidence?
Would we be brave enough to hear the answer?
The most amazing thing is this: we can know, without a doubt, what the God of the universe thinks of us! Now that should impact our confidence!
Ephesians 2:10 says, “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.”
We are His handiwork. And in case you doubt that being a good thing, Psalm 139:14 says, “I will give thanks to You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are Your works, And my soul knows it very well.”
Not only did He create us wonderfully well, but He loves us. Colossians 3:12 says, “So, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved…”
Our confidence should come not from what others might say or think, but because of who we are in Christ. God created you for good. We can walk confidently in that knowledge today!