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“It’s not fair!”
I’ve already lost count of how many times I’ve heard that complaint just today! Often parents try to make things as fair as possible to minimize sibling rivalry, but the truth is, life is NOT fair. You work hard at your job, and someone else gets promoted. You make the hard choice to do what’s right, and one who flaunts his rule-breaking choices gets ahead. Even if you eat all the “healthy” foods, you might still get sick.
Should we throw up our hands and quit? Stomp our feet and shout, “It’s not fair!” like a two-year-old? Cry into our pillows?
Sometimes allowing our emotions a safe escape is important. We need to be able to express what we’re feeling in a healthy way. But once we’ve had a chance to get it out, we need to step back and look at the situation more objectively.
God IS fair.
Psalms 25:8 says, “The Lord is both kind and fair; that is why he teaches sinners the right way to live.” (NET) He doesn’t play favorites, and He doesn’t make different rules (or allowances) for different people.
We are NOT fair.
It seems no matter how hard we may try to make things fair and even, we as humans are not fair. The Israelites apparently had this struggle with fairness, too. The Lord told them, through the prophet Ezekiel, “Yet the house of Israel says, ‘The Lord’s conduct is unjust!’ Is my conduct unjust, O house of Israel? Is it not your conduct that is unjust?” (Ezekiel 18:29, NET)
We ARE to treat one another fairly.
Despite the fact that fairness doesn’t come naturally, we are told to treat one another fairly. “You must not deal unjustly in judgment: you must neither show partiality to the poor nor honor the rich. You must judge your fellow citizen fairly.” (Leviticus 19:15, NET)
We CAN anticipate a fair future.
Revelation 21:1-5 describes a new heaven and a new earth. There will come a time when the sin-filled world we live in will cease to exist. This new heaven and new earth will have no sin, no sickness, no tears, no death and no pain. I cannot even begin to imagine!
So what NOW?
“Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, we must get rid of every weight and the sin that clings so closely, and run with endurance the race set out for us, keeping our eyes fixed on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of our faith.“ (Hebrews 12:1, NET)
Run with endurance. Treat others fairly. Even though our lives here on Earth will not be fair, we are still to treat others with fairness. Does that mean our kids should have everything exactly fair? I’m not sure that’s possible, despite our best efforts. Life isn’t fair, and we can’t make it that way for someone else. But we can treat them fairly ourselves and help them learn how to work through the disappointments and frustrations that come alongside the unfairness they will certainly face.Even though our lives here on Earth will not be fair, we are still to treat others with fairness. Click To Tweet
Does that mean we should expect fairness from those around us? Treat others the way they treat us? Unfortunately, it doesn’t work that way. We can hope that our example will inspire others to do the same, but we can’t make others be fair. Sometimes we have to let it go, as hard as it may be to do so. We can’t always make things in our world be fair.
As we fight this good fight, though, we need to keep our eyes on Jesus. There is a prize at the end of this race, and one day it will all be worth it! “So we must not grow weary in doing good, for in due time we will reap, if we do not give up.” (Galatians 6:9, NET)
Hang in there, dear one. Life’s not fair, it’s true, but we can each do our part of being fair to those around us, keeping our eyes always on the ONE who IS fair.